Friday, August 18, 2006

The Dorothy Principle

Boy oh boy, Heather. I sure hope Jim didn’t read your blog yesterday.

Why? Because I admitted that I actually enjoy it when he’s out of town? He knows. And he feels the same when I’m gone for a couple days.

Well, then you two must not have a very good relationship, do you?

Because we’re not attached at the hip? Because we’re not together every waking and breathing and sleeping moment?

Screw that.

Spending time away for work or with our own friends and interests makes our relationship that much stronger. In fact, I think it’s downright unhealthy for any couple to spend all their time together.

Let’s call it the Dorothy Principle.

You have to get out and experience the world on your own once in a while to truly appreciate the fact that there’s no place like home.
Of course it’s a delicate balance.

There are times when we’re both going non-stop between work, travel, and social schedules that we have to take a break for some “us” time. We don’t call it that – because that would be incredibly gay – but you know what I mean.

We’ve been together long enough to recognize when it happens. Then we go for a drive, crank the music, and re-connect.
These control-freak wives are asking for trouble when they keep their husbands on lock-down like children who’ll misbehave the moment they’re out of sight.

Jim’s got a mom. He doesn’t need another one.

And I think it’s good for him to get out with his friends on a semi-regular basis.

It makes me happy when he gets to do what makes him happy – and isn’t that what a good relationship is all about?
The Dorothy Principle, eh?

You know, Heather, most people who see The Wizard of Oz don’t come away with that message.


When Dorothy “left” she encountered all kinds of trouble and learned that she shouldn’t go looking for her heart’s desire beyond her own backyard.


She had an adventure. She met new people. Some of it wasn’t very nice, but like she said, most of it was beautiful.

And isn’t it interesting that she discovered a whole new appreciation for her black and white world after traveling over the rainbow?
I am listening to: Israel Kamakawiwo’ole – Somewhere Over the Rainbow
I am reading: Nothing
And I am: Relishing day two